A Restart Agreement is a mutual, private contract between two people who are stepping down from their marriage or long-term partnership. It defines the date of separation, outlines a fair split of assets, and helps both parties move forward—financially and emotionally—without litigation or drama.

No. A Restart Agreement is not a court-filed divorce decree. It's a written, signed agreement that can serve as the foundation for a legal divorce later, or simply as a way to clarify economic and emotional boundaries right now. We recommend you review the agreement with a lawyer—yours or one of ours.

For couples who still have respect for one another—even if they no longer want to stay married. For people who don't want to fight, but want a clean, clear next chapter. For anyone who believes love doesn't have to end in war.

• Your agreed-upon separation date
• A 50/50 asset split, or another split you both choose
• Optional clauses about shared debts, children, future income, and more
• A framework for emotional and physical boundaries moving forward

You don't need a lawyer to create your Restart Agreement, but we do recommend having one review it before you sign—especially if you have significant assets or children. Don't have a lawyer? We'll connect you to one at an affordable flat rate.

While not a court order, a Restart Agreement can often be recognized as a binding contract if it's properly signed and reviewed. In many states, it can simplify later divorce filings or avoid them altogether. We're starting with California and expanding to more states soon.

Not exactly. A prenup is signed before marriage. A divorce settlement is usually created during court proceedings. The Restart Agreement is something different: a pre-divorce, pre-conflict agreement. It's designed to prevent war, not settle it.

You can revise the agreement anytime—together. It's yours. If you later decide to reconcile, you'll have a clean starting point. If you decide to proceed with divorce, you'll already have most of the hard decisions made.

Right now, it's free to use while we're in early access. Later, guided versions will be available from $399 to $1,000, including optional lawyer review. We'll always keep a free version available for couples who need it most.

We get it. Starting this conversation is hard. That's why the Restart Agreement comes with guidance on how to approach it with care. We also offer optional personal coaching and example letters to help you open the door with love—not conflict.

The Restart Process is a conscious, compassionate decision to redefine your relationship. It's not divorce. It's a re-alignment—a reset. You're stepping down from the altar, releasing past roles and expectations, and returning to two sovereign people who may still love each other, but need a new structure for living, parenting, and possibly relating.

It begins with you. You propose the Restart to yourself before proposing it to your partner. This inner clarity is crucial. You're no longer pretending the old model is working. The first step is choosing love and truth over obligation and resentment.

No. It's a restructuring. A Restart isn't necessarily the end of the relationship—it's the end of the old relationship. What comes next is chosen, not assumed. The Restart gives both people space to be whole individuals again—and, if desired, reconnect in a new way.

Divorce is a legal solution to an emotional, financial, and spiritual misalignment. The Restart is a human-centered loving response to the same issue. It creates structure, clarity, and peace without the warfare, blame, or destruction that often accompanies divorce.

At first, it can feel like grief and liberation at once. You're grieving the fantasy. You're freeing the future. It may feel sad, scary, relieving, empowering—often all in the same week. The key is to let those feelings move through you, not control you.

• Emotional clarity and peace
• Reduced legal costs and conflict
• A structure for co-parenting and co-living
• Freedom to grow independently
• Space to choose, rather than default to, staying together

That's what the Restart Agreement is for. It's a custom, co-created document that outlines:

• Financial responsibilities and timelines
• Childcare and parenting roles
• Housing, asset separation, and shared resources

It's a roadmap, not a rulebook. And it's designed with love, not leverage.

Not to begin and maybe never. You might eventually involve legal counsel to file certain documents or ensure local compliance, but the Restart Process itself starts outside the courtroom—with two people choosing to change the terms of their relationship intentionally.

A shared Restart Agreement is ideal—but it starts with you. If your partner isn't ready, you can still begin the process by making the proposal and beginning financial and emotional separation. The Restart Proposal helps you set emotional and logistical boundaries, express your intentions with love and clarity, and begin to step into a new chapter—even if it's one-sided at first. You can invite collaboration, but you don't need permission from anyone to begin the Restart process.

Yes, and many do. The Restart is not about geography—it's about energy, responsibility, and communication. Shared housing can work with clear boundaries, defined roles, and mutual respect.

Anything you both feel comfortable with. Some say "co-parent," "housemate," "former spouse," "partner," or even "Restarted partner." The label isn't what matters—it's the clarity and care behind how you interact.

The Restart Agreement is a co-created document that replaces confusion with clarity. It's a peaceful alternative to legal warfare—a practical, loving contract between two people who are choosing to end one version of their relationship and create space for something new.

The Restart Agreement is written in plain language and grounded in mutual respect. Instead of fighting over who wins, it lays out a roadmap where both parties feel seen, secure, and free. It can be legally recognized, but its power comes from the emotional alignment beneath it.

• Date of Restart: Establishes the emotional and legal separation point
• Financial Terms: Defines income, expenses, debt obligations, and agreed-upon support (not "alimony," just clear commitments)
• Housing & Property: Outlines who lives where, who owns what, and what happens next
• Parenting Plan: Structures time, responsibilities, and communication around children
• Conflict Resolution: Describes how disputes will be handled without hostility
• Freedom Clauses: Acknowledges personal sovereignty—freedom of movement, dating, and self-expression
• Intent to Reconnect (Optional): If both parties wish, this clause invites future reconnection from a place of choice, not default

It's written with dignity, simplicity, and care. Some parts may feel poetic. Others read like a business agreement. The goal is to create a shared foundation that feels human, not adversarial.

Yes. The agreement is a template, not a trap. You can adjust language, tone, terms, and structure based on your values, needs, and legal context.

Yes, especially in states like California. A signed and notarized Restart Agreement can support legal separation filings, trust or LLC structuring, or serve as a mutually binding contract. Legal assistance is optional, not required.

Ideally, you and your partner write it together—with or without a Restart Guide. You can also draft it on your own and propose it as a starting point.

That's where the guide or mediator comes in. Disagreements aren't failure—they're invitations to clarify values. The agreement includes built-in ways to pause, discuss, or revise with mutual consent.

Yes. Many couples include intentions around healing, forgiveness, or future rituals. The Restart is about the whole relationship—economic, emotional, and existential.

A Reset LLC is a legal entity (a Limited Liability Company) created by two partners—usually spouses—to hold, manage, and disburse shared financial resources. It transforms the emotional complexity of separation into a structured, businesslike collaboration.

Because an LLC is:

• Neutral: It's not about "supporting" or "punishing" either party.
• Flexible: Terms are defined by the partners, not the courts.
• Clean: You separate emotions from logistics.
• Efficient: It simplifies accounting, taxes, and transfers.

You replace emotional power dynamics with business clarity—and reduce friction, fees, and future arguments.

• The family home (or the rent obligation)
• Shared bank accounts and investment assets
• Income streams (either from one partner or both)
• Monthly contributions from either party
• Defined payment rules for child support, housing, utilities, etc.

• The LLC receives regular contributions (e.g. $X/month from one or both partners)
• It pays for jointly agreed expenses: home, kids, shared obligations
• It may also pay a salary or stipend to one partner (e.g., the caregiving parent or homemaker)
• These are business payments, not "alimony" or "spousal support"
• All transactions are documented—clean, simple, tax-ready

You can both be managing members, or one partner can handle it with visibility given to the other. You may also appoint a neutral third party (bookkeeper, Restart Guide, or financial coach) to keep things fair and transparent.

• You get clear records and reduce legal risk
• You avoid emotional volatility around money
• You can negotiate creative terms that reflect real life, not court templates
• You preserve dignity and partnership, even through transition

Not entirely—but it can complement those processes or be part of your Restart Agreement. It helps clarify who pays what, who lives where, and how things will evolve financially, whether you legally separate or not.

The agreement can define an exit trigger: e.g., once the house is sold, once a child turns 18, or after X months of support. At that point, the LLC dissolves, assets are distributed per your agreement, and you each move fully into financial independence.

You don't need one to start, but a lawyer can review your Operating Agreement and an accountant can help with tax structure. Most people use a template and adapt it to their needs—with guidance from a Restart Guide or paralegal if needed.

LLCs are legal in every U.S. state. Their use in marital arrangements is creative—but valid as long as both parties consent and the terms are clear. In states like California, this approach is especially viable when paired with a Restart Agreement.

A Restart Guide is not a lawyer, not a therapist, and not a judge. They're a trusted, neutral third party who helps you navigate the emotional and practical terrain of restarting your relationship. They bring clarity, compassion, structure, and accountability.

• Helps you reflect on and refine your intentions
• Guides you through the creation of a Restart Agreement
• Facilitates calm, respectful conversations between partners
• Keeps the process anchored in love and personal growth
• Tracks emotional and logistical milestones
• Provides access to tools, templates, and community support

A divorce lawyer works within the court system to divide assets and resolve legal disputes. A Restart Guide works outside that system, helping you co-create agreements based on trust, clarity, and mutual benefit. The goal is peace—not paperwork.

You pay when the process is working for you. You're not paying by the hour—you're paying for alignment. Some tiers are free. Some are monthly. You only stay subscribed if you feel the Restart is bringing you peace, clarity, or momentum.

Yes—when both partners are open to dialogue, the Guide becomes a neutral facilitator. They hold the space, keep things from spiraling, and ensure both voices are heard. If only one partner participates, the Guide helps that person anchor and clarify their next steps.

No. But it's often therapeutic. Restart Guides do not diagnose or treat mental health conditions. They do, however, help you see yourself clearly and act from integrity.

Neither. A good Restart Guide is on the side of clarity and truth. Their job is to help both people step into sovereignty and stability—whether that leads to separation, reconnection, or reimagining what partnership means.

Yes, to a degree. Many Guides offer templates, referrals, and conceptual frameworks (e.g. how to turn a marriage into an LLC, set up a trust, or clarify assets). For filing legal paperwork, they may connect you with legal assistants or friendly attorneys.

You can. This is not a court order. It's a co-creative service. You cancel anytime. If you outgrow the Guide, awesome. That's the point.

Yes. If you've been through it, and you're drawn to serve others, you can train as a Restart Guide. It's a calling. It requires emotional maturity, communication skills, and a deep respect for personal sovereignty and love in all its forms.

Emphasize that the Restart is a mutual and respectful decision to redefine your relationship—not a fight, not a failure, and not the end of your love as co-parents. Use clear language like: "We've decided to step down from the altar and return to the people we were before we were married. We're doing this so we can live more peacefully and support each other—and you—more honestly."

Tell them together if possible. A joint conversation models unity and reinforces that the Restart is a shared decision. It also shows your teen that they are still supported by both parents. "Even though we're changing how we relate to each other, we're both here for you and will always be your team."

Teens appreciate honesty. Use clear, age-appropriate words, and avoid euphemisms. Don't say "we're taking a break" or "nothing is changing." Instead, be direct but loving. "This is called a Restart Agreement. It means we're changing how we live together, but not how we love and support you."

Stay neutral. Don't assign fault or share adult conflicts. Reinforce that the decision is about both parents choosing the healthiest path forward—together. "No one is to blame. This is a thoughtful choice we've made because we care deeply about each other and about you."

Teens benefit from knowing what to expect. Be specific about what's staying the same and what might shift. Clarity reduces anxiety. "You'll still be at your school, your schedule won't change, and you'll have time with both of us. We'll keep you informed along the way."

Reiterate your unconditional love and commitment. Remind them this isn't the end of a family—it's a new form. "We love you unconditionally. That hasn't changed. We're still your parents, and that will always be true."

Invite questions. Make space for emotions. Let them know it's okay to feel sad, confused, or even relieved. Encourage them to talk anytime. "You can feel however you feel—angry, sad, curious. You can always ask us anything. We'll answer honestly."

Absolutely. Even if they seem "fine," teens often benefit from a neutral third party like a therapist or school counselor. Give them the option without pressure. "If you ever want to talk to someone who isn't us, we'll help you find someone great. We want you to feel safe and supported."

When we stepped up on that altar I promised you two things:

1. I would be celibate, except for you
2. And you get half of everything I do for the rest of my life

This is a restart. As of the date of the restart, which I'm proposing to you and you do not need to agree to,* these things are no longer true.

1. We are dating now. I would love to date you. I loved dating you. You are my most favorite person that I have ever dated. And I want to date you. But I'm also gonna date other people now.
2. And if you buy a winning lottery ticket tomorrow, you get all the upside. And if I buy a winning lottery ticket tomorrow, I get all the upside. I am free to make a company without you that you have no right to anything in. You can earn into it. I hope you do. I love you and I want this to work. I always have and I always will. I believe the reset will work. Do you?

* If you don't agree we'll file FL100 (in California) that establishes the separation date for the purpose of dividing the community assets equality, which either party in a married couple can do at anytime for any reason.